I have a problem: I don’t know where my family and I should be attending Mass.
When I was first hired as the youth minister for two different parishes, both pastors were new, so we didn’t have any idea which one would be the best fit. We decided to join the one that was closest to our house. Now, we’re 3 years in and the two parishes and pastors have developed very unique personalities and charisms, and I just can’t figure out which one is the best fit for our family.
Part of the struggle lies in the difference in faith development between me and my husband. My husband only recently became Catholic and has had some pretty disillusioning experiences of Church life (Someone remind me how I could have ever thought parish council would be a good idea for a new Catholic?) and he mostly goes to Mass because he knows how important it is to me. I, on the other hand, am a cradle, Catholic-school going, Church worker with a Master’s degree in Pastoral Studies who tries to get to daily Mass at least once a week.
The problem is that the two parishes meet two very different needs for our family.